Anger and aggression is one of the major problems in today's society. Due to the many problems that people are facing, the level of patience and endurance of human beings has decreased and it has caused excessive anger in them. Therefore, in this article, we intend to provide methods to control and reduce anger.
As we know, anger is an inner feeling that we all instinctively have. This inner feeling manifests itself in times of anger, both physically and mentally.
Physical symptoms of anger include:
- Rising tone of voice
- Change the color of the face (blush)
- Change in body temperature (body heating)
- increase of heart rate
- Holding your breath and punching your hands
Among the psychological symptoms of anger can be mentioned the following:
-Feelings of resentment, resentment, and in times of extreme anger are feelings of hatred for the person who made you angry.
- Impatience and lack of control over your thoughts and behavior- Sometimes guilt
Each of us humans can experience anger and aggression for a variety of reasons. for example :
- Occurrence of small and large unwanted problems in life
- Failure in various stages of life
- Disagreement between people and then, start arguing
- to lose one's right
- Being deceived or breaking a covenant
- Mental and psychological problems (in other words, weakness of the nerves and anger for any minor reason)We should not run away from the fact that all the mentioned issues and thousands of other issues occur in every person's life.
We need to find a way to control and reduce our anger.
Among the simple strategies that can be used in times of anger and control our anger are:
- Silence when angry
- to take a deep breath
- Drink cold water
- Sending salawat and saying the word curse on the devil during an argument (this action may seem ineffective to some of us. But it is not. It is interesting to know that this makes us show that we are right And we are good people, control our anger.)
- Leave in the event of an argument or fight, even if we seem weak.
(A word to ourselves: If you feel humiliated by this, you can leave the place with a laugh, which means that we are right, and end the discussion.)
In fact, it is a sign of our ability to control ourselves in such situations.
If possible, postpone the discussion until your anger subsides and you deal with it calmly. You will certainly have wise behavior and speech. In some cases, it is possible to give the right to the other party and regret your behavior and have a guilty conscience. Or, conversely, conclude that you were right. In such cases, it is recommended to put yourself in the other person's position and try to ignore his mistake and not follow the argument and end the argument forever, or when everyone's anger subsides, try with the other party's logical reasons. Convince.
In the previous case, you can do things that calm you down to calm your anger. Everyone's anger is reduced in different ways. for example :
- Some people relax by sleeping. like me
- Some by listening to the song
- Others by walking or hiking
Summary Everyone can find a way to achieve peace according to their knowledge of themselves.But in some people, the amount of anger and aggression exceeds normal and the person alone can not control it. In such cases, our behavior must be treated radically. Because most of these people for various reasons have mental health problems that alone can not control their anger with the methods mentioned. A helpful tip for these people is to see a counselor or psychologist for help.
Today, due to the advancement of psychology, there are scientific and effective solutions that can be used to achieve peace.
Last word:
I hope this article is useful and will be used by you friends and the life of all of you dear ones will be peaceful and happy.